Happy Tuesday #Jontourage,
Welcome back to the “Classy Gent Chronicles”, where staying classy is the only way to be. Let's jump right into it....
Since the beginning of time, the acceptance and approval of others has been a major priority. When looking at Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, belongingness is ranked third. By belongingness, it means the ability to have and maintain relationships is important to us as humans. When it comes to our family’s approval, this becomes crucial. Every child longs for the infamous “atta boy”, “good job”, or “I’m proud of you” from their family. So what about the kids who grow up into adults and rarely or never hear those words of approval? It often takes their life into a tailspin because they need somebody to make them feel loved and accepted. The same thing happens in dating, partners who often cheat need to feel a sense of belonging so they go elsewhere when they are not getting it in their relationships.
For the folks that decided to follow our dreams, they are often met with backlash from our family. Some people are even left with having to make one of the toughest decisions of all time, chase your dreams or stay on good terms with your family. Let’s look at the reasons families may not support you in your ideas:
My golden formula for support from other people is as follows:
Your level of commitment- 1= Your support level from other people
Moral of the story: The formula I gave is the max support you will get from someone. If you get a five star effort, you will get at best four star support. If you are only giving a one star effort, you can imagine how the rest of the world will receive the idea. No one will ever take your project more seriously than you will. Change your work ethic and watch things change for you.
Remember, in order to live out your dreams, you have to think it, feel it, live it! Until next time, stay classy...
Raised in Fort Washington, Maryland in Prince George’s County, Mr. Jonathan C. Harris has served in leadership positions his entire life, from being manager of the school store in elementary school to president of the Homelessness Awareness Club in middle school to president of the National Honor Society in high school. During his time studying statistics at the University of Delaware, he also served as a Resident Assistant, Freshman Year Experience Peer Mentor, and Tour Guide to help students feel at home. Jonathan currently works at Lincoln University in Pennsylvania as a Residence Hall Coordinator, where he oversees two residence halls. He has planned and presented at numerous seminars and conferences related to issues on college campuses. He has received several honors and awards including High School Valedictorian, Residence Hall Coordinator of the Year, Dean's List, Residence Life's People’s Choice Award, Kiwanis Club Citizenship Award, and the Excellence in Service to Students Award.